Doing good in the future, won't erase your past mistakes, but it creates an environment for future success.
"I hope no one notices I made a mistake." 😰
When I was younger, I was always afraid of making mistakes. Whether it was at home or at school. There was constantly the worry that others would judge me negatively or that you would get in trouble.
Who likes the feeling that you do everything wrong?
Who likes the feeling that you don't know anything?
Who likes the feeling that you can't do anything?
After all, in school you were "punished" for every mistake with a bad score/grade.
In everyday life, if you did something wrong, you might have been scolded. 😖
What happens when you are judged negatively by others for your mistakes as a child?
I don't know how it was for you guys. But for me, it led me to try to do everything right. I never wanted to do anything wrong to the outside world. I always had to make sure I did everything "right" because I didn't understand at the time that "doing something wrong" didn't mean I was a "bad person." I always took it personally. Whenever I did something wrong, I primarily saw my failure and not the opportunity to learn something.
This led me to always do what I could and never try anything new. I used my "perfectionism" as an excuse, so I never had to leave my comfort zone.
Everything had to be perfectly planned, prepared and executed before I could show the result - Of course, I never asked for help either - that would have been embarrassing.
I was going around in circles - afraid to fail. 😩
But a few years ago I read a quote that finally broke that block in my head. The quote was, "You don't get paid to be perfect. You get paid to solve problems."
This quote helped me a lot to get rid of my perfectionism and to understand that it is not important to be perfect, but to help others.
Since then, I constantly try to help others, whether directly or indirectly. It was no longer important to me that I do everything 100% right. I was happy if I could help others with 10%.
I also learned through this and also really understood: If I did something "wrong," it doesn't mean I'm a bad person. My mistakes don't define me as a person, but help me realize that this is not the right approach and I can learn from it.
Does it make me less afraid of doing new things? 🤔
No, I'm still scared every time I step out of my comfort zone and try something new. But now I know: I go out with a focus on helping others or learning, rather than proving to others that I'm doing everything right.
So a little tip to you if you are afraid to make mistakes or have already made a mistake and feel bad. Ask yourself: What can I learn from this mistake and what can I do better next time? ✨
If you are under pressure right now and would like someone to talk to about it without someone judging you negatively, feel free to write to me again. I will listen to you and maybe together we can find the positive in the "mistake". 🥰
“You are the storyteller of your own life, and you can create your own legend, or not.” - Isabel Allende
